21 Mar

Pegging advice – a collaboration with Aurora Glory

Back at the start of the year, I made the bold statement that I’d like to do a few more collaborative pieces in 2017.  As with all such bold statements, the number of volunteers tended towards the opposite of infinity.  So, I went looking for some collaborators, and I have a few in the pipeline.  The first though, in conjunction with Aurora Glory is this article about pegging.

 

For the avoidance of doubt, I am not talking about hanging out the washing, but rather the act of anal penetration by a partner wearing a strap-on.  Typically pegging is thought of as a female partner penetrating the male anus, but I don’t see why it has to stop there – all permutations of sexual identity can partake in a spot of pegging, although I’m yet to see a solution which would allow self-pegging.  Wait a minute…  Have I accidentally stumbled upon a new niche?  Probably not, but the kink in me can see a definite market for a device which allows one to fuck one’s own arse.  Ok, this is a bit tangential, so let’s get back on track.

 

This post by Aurora on her blog has some great information on why you might want to try pegging, especially from the female point of view, she also has some great advice on safety and hygiene.  So, I am going to focus on what I, as a penis and prostate owner can get from the act of pegging.  Regular readers will know that I am straight and in a happy marriage, but just putting that out there for those who are new to subsmissives.

 

I love a spot of prostate play, actually I love pretty much all types of butt stimulation, but the prostate is the pinnacle.  Sadly, perhaps, our maker saw fit to locate it in the most unobtainable place possible.

What’s so great about the prostate?  Science bit coming up…

The prostate produces the seminal fluid that makes up most of a chap’s cum.  The connection to orgasm is immediately obvious, no?  If you can stimulate the prostate into action via the penis to produce ejaculation, what would happen if you could stimulate the prostate directly?   Yes, if you’re with me, pegging is for you.  If you’re not with me, or unsure, please read on as I will change your mind…

 

Ok, maybe that wasn’t so sciencey after all – but that just shows it’s a simple thing really.

 

The prostate has been responsible for the best of my orgasms.  Initial stimulation does give an “I need to pee” sensation, but that is perfectly normal.  Pressure, vibrations or prodding of the prostate will get the juices flowing, with a sensation that is both immediate and consuming.  It takes over you, it can take your breath, quicken your heart, and before you realise it your whole groin is alive with feeling.  It’s intense, urgent, but you don’t want it to go, don’t want it to pass.  It doesn’t; prostate play allows for long lasting pleasure.  It rises, it falls, it flows, it ebbs. But all the time it’s there, coaxing your body towards a nirvana of pleasure.

At some point your penis will start to ooze fluid – sometimes it’s clear like pre-cum, other times it is milky, like a watery cum.  Again, all perfectly normal.  The prostate orgasm is not like a penile ejaculatory orgasm, it’s altogether more subtle, building up, rising, like a wave.  Not the wave that crashes on the beach, but the wave that rolls for miles, that surfers glide effortlessly along.

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The penis orgasm is the wave that crashes, the prostate orgasm is the wave that goes on and on.

 

It’s possible for those prostate orgasms to last for several minutes, and what is amazing is that quite often when I have them, other than the oozing, my penis just isn’t bothered.  It hangs there limp and nonplussed.  And this is where you can really start to experiment.  Get that cock hard, give it a wank whilst your prostate is being stimulated and you can enjoy both the crashing wave, and the rolling wave simultaneously.  This, dearest reader is the max pleasure.

Having that ejaculatory orgasm doesn’t mean the end to prostate stimulation either.  Yes, you will more than likely find the stimulation of the prostate doubled in intensity post ejaculation, but it doesn’t have to end, the rolling wave can continue.

 

Are you getting a sense of why the prostate stimulation is so bloody awesome?

Another tangent, I know, sorry, but an necessary one.  Necessary because you need to know why prostate orgasms are the bees knees before I start going on about pegging.

 

Ready for another tangent?

The thing is, you see, once you’ve realised how bloody awesome prostate stimulation is, you kinda get curious about other butt sensations.  This has led me over several years to realise that the feeling of actually having something up your butt itself is rather pleasant too.  Yeah, it’s not the intense pleasure of a prostate massage, but it feels good to have something like a butt plug in.  This inevitable leads to dildos, and vibrators and yeah, lots of different things.  Whether it’s to squeeze your butt muscles around, or whether it is for the textures of the shaft of something as it penetrates – it’s all very very awesome.

 

Ok, now I’ve convinced you of the benefits of a spot of bum fun, I’m going to bring us back to pegging.

 

You’re gonna need a strap on.  And here you have basically 2 choices.  You can go for a harness into which a dildo will fit, or you can go for a strapless strap-on.  Check out my review of the Fun Factory ShareVibe for more on strapless strap-ons. A review of a harness kit shall be coming soon.

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the Fun Factory ShareVibe – a strapless strap-on

When choosing a harness, there’s a few things you’ll need to consider.

Who’s going to be wearing it?  We have the Tantus Intermediate kit which is awesome because it is massively adjustable – meaning regardless of size, it’s likely to fit.  It comes with dildos too, which is a bonus.  If you already have plenty of dildos, then I really like the look of the Scandal Corset Harness – lots of adjustability and a fancy design too.  Both these kits come with a couple of O-rings, which will let you attach any flat-bottomed dildo to the harness.

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a more conventional strap on kit

Maybe you want something a little smarter than a set of straps an O-ring?  Perhaps something by RodeoH, whose harnesses are basically pants.

 

What’s next? You should think about experience does the peggee have?  Myself for example, I’m pretty experienced at anal & prostate stimulation, what this means for me is that when looking for that first pegging dildo, I perhaps bypassed some of the more obvious ones.  For example, the Tantus Sport seems like a good beginner option, but there are plenty of ones that would be suitable.  I suppose what you’re looking for is something slim and smooth for a novice, with an arc that reaches for the prostate, if that is indeed your goal.  The next step, and sticking with Tantus, the Curve is an excellent option. In her article, Aurora Glory has some good advice about safety for first time pegging.

 

So, you have a harness and a dildo.  What’s next?  Mechanics.

Machinery enthusiasts, I’m sorry, for I am talking about how you are actually going to do pegging.  If it’s your first time, then the key is lube lube lube, and slowly does it.  Take the time to enjoy the sensations for both partners – communicate about what’s nice and what might be better or what you don’t like.

 

But what’s the best position for pegging?  An easy one to start with is your classic doggy style – it allows for easy access, easy control, and is generally comfortable for both of you.  In our review of the Fun Factory ShareVibe though, we talk about the problem of gravity, and how cowboy position works very well too.  For nervous chaps, this might be better as it allows the peggee to maintain most control.

Once you’ve discovered the joys of pegging, then the world is your oyster as regards position, a personal favourite is laying on my back with hips raised, legs akimbo, allowing M to access my butt, but also so she can masturbate my cock.

 

Are you with me?  Can you see the joys of pegging?  I think stories of pegging in a BDSM scenario are ones for another day.  What I do know though is that I absolutely need a Liberator Wedge/Ramp combo.

Please, if you have any nuggets I’ve missed, then pop them in the comments below.

One thought on “Pegging advice – a collaboration with Aurora Glory

  1. I agree about the prostate. It is mans best friend. I have been pegged hundreds of times, as far as me , the more I get pegged, the more I want bigger in size.
    I started out with dildos around 1 inch in width and around 10 inches long. It feels so good and my desire for longer and wider was a must have, I love to take it up the ass at least 3 times a week with dildos that are 16″ long and 3″ wide ,well that what it used to be. Now my partner has left me I have no choice but to play solo until I can find another partner. I have a fucking machine now , it’s the next best thing to a woman with a big strap on.

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