09 Oct

Orgasm Control with Electrastim

Dearest reader, I want to introduce you to one of Mistress’ best friends.

It’s a sextoy like no other, but one which has featured in several places on the blog already.  Mistress likes it so much since it has an effect on me like nothing else.  It produces reactions that I just have no control over, and the sadistic streak in her likes the fact that she, ultimately, has caused that reaction.

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27 Jul

spank test

I’d really love to try spanking, but I’m afraid it will hurt too much.  Does this sound like you?  Well, maybe you should try the spank test.

 

What is this spank test you mention?

Good question, and when it was first suggested to me by an uber-spankee, this was my reaction too.

The spank test is a kinky suck it and see type arrangement.  A way to sound out the paddles, to cut out the crop, and to whip up a stir about what does and doesn’t work for you.

 

 

Ohhh, sounds interesting, tell me more…?

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15 Jun

hot wax play

Pizza.  I would imagine that if asked what does sub like most (after Mistress), you’d say Pizza. Well, you’d be wrong.  The thing I love, absolutely adore above anything else is a spot of hot wax play.

 

You see, it just incorporates so many facets of BDSM play that it is so incredibly good.  Firstly, it requires submission – to submit to Mistress so she might splash the wax on me.  It involves restraint; OK, it doesn’t need to, but it’s so much better if it does.  It involves anticipation, oh my, the wait for the splash, it is oh so incredible.  It can be arty, it can be conformist or it can be radical and haphazard. And, perhaps most importantly for me, it involves sensation.

 

Oh yes, that sensation.  I have not yet experienced something quite as satisfying as the sensation of hot wax.

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29 May

Waiting – Mistress’ Friend & Ally



Oh waiting how I lovehate thee. So simple in guise, so simple to use, yet nothing more effective has come to the fore.

 

Oh waiting how I lovehate thee.  Sometimes you are short sometimes you seemingly never end, Mistress’ friend, merely my acquaintance.

 

Oh waiting, how I lovehate thee.  Together with Mistress you taunt my mind, of possibilities yet to unfold.

 

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25 May

butt plug long term wear guide

As a regular (albeit lurking of late) on the Lovehoney forum, I am encouraged yet slightly disappointed by the regularity with which one particular question appears.  Can I go out wearing a butt plug long term?

 

I am encouraged because clearly there is a large appetite for this ‘kink’.  I am disappointed because, well, can’t you use the search bar?  But that’s a rant for another day.  And to be fair, I’ve noticed the forum search is broken at the time of writing, but I digress.

 

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01 Apr

bondage tape

Although it took me a long time to tell my wife about my submissive tendencies, we have indulged in bondage for a much longer time, and bondage tape is one of our essentials.  It doesn’t matter if you are a novice or a bona-fide dungeon master, bondage tape is a must-have.

 

Mistress’ tape of choice is from Lovehoney and I’ve lost count of how many rolls we have got through.

The tape is magical stuff, it only sticks to itself, and is completely skin safe in my experience.  It is extremely easy to use, and remove, although it is also very tough and can withstand some struggling.

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