25 May

butt plug long term wear guide

As a regular (albeit lurking of late) on the Lovehoney forum, I am encouraged yet slightly disappointed by the regularity with which one particular question appears.  Can I go out wearing a butt plug long term?

 

I am encouraged because clearly there is a large appetite for this ‘kink’.  I am disappointed because, well, can’t you use the search bar?  But that’s a rant for another day.  And to be fair, I’ve noticed the forum search is broken at the time of writing, but I digress.

 

Spoiler Alert…

The answer to your question is overwhelmingly YES!!

 

You don’t even need to plan in advance, or anything, but nonetheless, here is subs guide to butt plug long term wear.

 

You need 3 things:

  • A butt. Now if you are not in possession of one of these, then, to be completely frank, you should probably stop reading now, as this just isn’t going to happen for you.  Sorry to be the harbinger of bad news, but that’s just how it is.  If it helps, it doesn’t actually need to be your butt; in the very best of BDSM senses, as long as it consents.

 

  • A plug. I know what you’re thinking; state the bleeding obvious sub. But the truth is, you need the proper kit if you’re gonna stick something up your no 1.

 

  • In fact, that should probably read lube lube lube.  This really is make or break stuff.  The difference between ooooh and ooowwww!

 

 

No 1 – a butt

For most people reading this guide, I imagine you’ll be utilising your own butt for butt plug long term wear; good choice!  I would thoroughly recommend a spot of self-care.  Douching is optional, and is a personal choice, but what I really mean by self-care is be in tune with yourself.  If you have a sore bottom, or a dodgy stomach, maybe put this off for another day.

 

No 2 – a plug

The one thing that is absolutely critical for butt plug long term wear is the base; the design feature which will stop your plug from disappearing inwards; which whilst fun (of a different nature) is probably not your desired outcome.  Whilst it is essential, it is probably the last thing you actually need to consider; there are so many options, providing it has a base.

First is the material – there are loads to choose from, so which do you go for?  Silicone seems like a good place to start; body safe, flexible and comfortable to wear both internally and externally.  Glass is equally body safe, less flexible which is a personal choice, and potentially less comfortable externally too; a rigid base won’t flex with your movements, and in worse-case scenario may case chafing.  A decent lube is essential for glass.  There are also various metal plugs available; steel and aluminium are easy to find, and are very similar to wear to glass.  Metal plugs I find tend to be smaller than glass though; which may be a factor for your decision making.  The harder materials will give you more sensation as you walk around, you will feel them rubbing part inside and outside more than a softer material; they will also give you a greater sense of fullness for the same reasons.

The logic says if it’s your first time to go silicone; and progress from there.  There are other soft materials available, but I’d recommend avoiding any soft material that isn’t silicone.

 

The size is next – whilst you may want to feel full, remember you’ve got to get it in there first, and then be comfortable with it for the long term wear.  Inflatable plugs are great, but generally aren’t made from your body safe material, and actually because of the valve aren’t especially suited for out-and-aboutness.  It’s true what they say about starting small and progressing.  You also don’t want to have something so enormously large up your butt that people mistake you for a gunslinger from the wild west.  Or maybe it’s not your butt, and that is what you want – so you go right ahead, partner.  Not just the size of the plug, but also of the neck – the bit between the plug and the base.  Cos that’s how wide your butt is gonna be open; my advice here?  Yup you guessed it, start small and work up.

 

Shape!  I hear you shout, yes shape is important, if you’re a chap, do you want one that bends towards your P-spot, or if you’re a lass, your G-spot, or do you just want to stick something up your butt for shits n giggles.

 

Texture perhaps something that gets overlooked, and in all honesty, once it’s in, the texture doesn’t do much for me unless it is on the neck.

 

Whoa! Who knew butt plug long term wear could be so complicated?  I really do apologise dearest reader, let me sum up.  Beginner, small, silicone. Intermediate, larger, glass or metal.  Advanced; do what you like you probably know more than I do!

 

No 3 – lube

Are you ready for the science bit?  Nah?  Oh ok.  In simple terms.  Water based lube is probably best since you can’t go wrong then, you ideally want something thick and long lasting.  There are many many many to choose from, I can highly recommend the GiveLube Premium Aqua Gel or Lovehoney’s discover.

With a water based lube, you’ll probably want to reapply reasonably regularly, since evaporation can impact longevity.

If you’re using a non-porous material like glass or metal, then your options are much wider.  A nice silicone lube will keep your skin lubricated and protected long after it evaporates.  I review an entirely decent silicone lube here.  Or for ultra-longevity you might want to consider an oil based lube.  It’s not the kind of thing you’d want to put into your body with extreme regularity, but it’s really useful to stop the chafing you might get from harder materials.  I have an awesome beeswax oil based lube that I’d love to recommend but can’t find a retailer for!  (sad face)

 

So, what would I recommend?

A really good starter plug is the Lovehoney booty buddy

Moving on I can thoroughly recommend Tantus juice

The rosebud metal plugs are good for someone wanting metal, and come in aluminium and steel to give weight options

Glass plugs are tricky since they tend to have smaller difference between neck and base, or finger loops which aren’t really suitable for longer term wear, or a wide base which might be uncomfortable longer term.

So now, lube up, and go forth, enjoy your butt plug long term wear.

12 thoughts on “butt plug long term wear guide

  1. what are the chances of it falling out? sorry if i sound like a noob, i am one haha. very new to butt plugs but interested in long term usage as well however i worried about the chances of it falling out. thank you

    • Butt toys can fall out. The key really is to find one were the difference in girth between the stem and the bulb of the plug is big enough to prevent travel. Sadly, beginners plugs are the most likely to fall out since they have the smallest difference. So my advice would be to practice with medium size plugs for longer wear.
      sitting on the plug and underwear can also prevent the plug from falling out

    • Hi David,
      The answer to that is that it’s highly unlikely, but it really does depend on the individual. Butt plugs provide a range of sensations, and each individual’s reaction to those sensations will be different to anyone elses, and I would imagine there is a very small percentage for whom it is enough to produce orgasm. If that’s what your aim is, then perhaps something like the lelo hugo might be a good idea as it stimulates the prostate

  2. Well, I took the step and purchased a lg. Bejeweled. I’m in heavven!! I love this thing. I I’m already sleeping with it in. I do plan this weekend to purchase a prostate plug too. Thanks for the link for lelo hugo. That may become my third purchase. Question is, is the vibrating plug quiet enough to wear around town??

    • Awesome!
      There’s a definite correlation between cost and noise with sex toys. The more expensive toys do tend to be a lot more discreet in their noise levels. That said, unless you’re in a library, the white noise of every day life will drown out the noises from almost all inserted toys. It’s really nerve wracking at first because to you (wearing it) it sounds an awful lot louder than it really is.

  3. Just stumbled upon your site in a search for answers.
    I’m looking to get a glass ponytail butt plug from Crystal Delights… but I am unsure about the stem length.
    I want to be able to wear it for long periods of time and during play. Is it better to have a longer stem to prevent the plug from slipping out during play (intercourse)and also keep it from traveling further then what it’s supposed to?
    I’ve had an issue before with a smaller plug traveling and it definitely scared the crap out of me. Don’t want to end up at an er to have something removed.
    Thanks in advance for your response.

    • Everyone’s anatomy is different. but yes if your stem is too short to sit comfortably between the muscles then it may be ejected. The real important bit though is the difference in girth between the base/stem/bulb

  4. I have just bought my very first but plug and I love it I had it inside me for 5 hours it was so nice and fantastic

  5. I am wearing butt plugs now for almost 15 years 24/7. Starting with little ones (two inch in diameter) i am up to 4 inches now. Why?
    Because i wanted to stay dry and therefore i was always increasing the tunnel plugs by its diameter.
    Now i cannot live without the plug anymore-my anus stays wide open permanently-so be aware by stretching your butt 24/7 !!!
    I even carry a butt plug harness to help the plug stay in place at all times-sometimes even wear latex shorts if my back toilet is telling me to-lol.

  6. I have a question to ask….does anyone know of a butt plug that is metal, and has a t-handle, or some handle that is comfortable for long term use? I have some metal butt plugs but they have a round base and it gets uncomfortable slowly over time…….. i heard that the t-handle plugs can be very comfortable….i have also seen some with a thin curved handle that curves gently so it fits comfortably and such.

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